I cried myself to sleep last night.

Jarvis had to excuse himself and go to bed when the stoning began. I held up the throw, that was warming my legs, to block my eyes. Eventually I had to plug my ears, too – as I began to feel each stone that I could hear bludgeoning Soraya M. in rapid fire succession.

The good news is that the actual stoning in the movie ‘The Stoning of Soraya M’ is less than 10 minutes of the movie – so please don’t let this graphically violent scene dissuade you from watching this powerful, beautifully made, must see movie.

What happened for Jarvis and I might just happen for you. It may open your heart, stir up compassion and widen your eyes to the many cultures that comprise this global village that we are all a part of. You may want to kill the horrible man that is at the center of the spiral of lies, but you may also feel a certain sense compassion toward the villagers because of the hundreds of years of deep belief that the way they do things is actually right. We all only know what we know, we also know what we don‘t know… then, there’s all the stuff that we don’t know that we don’t know – and that is a HUGE percentage of stuff!

Still the ability for one human to do unto another with such fierce violence blows my freakin mind. I remember back after the towers went down there was a series of beheadings that took place in the Mid-East that were available for your viewing pleasure on the internet. I could never watch them, but my friend Rigzin, a Buddhist, watched them and explained to me that it helped him with the compassion component of his practice. After last night I get that (even though I couldn’t really watch it)

I joined Jarvis in bed with my heart completely busted open. After he stirred and received me in his arms, he said, ‘I’m sad’. I mumbled, ‘me too’, and began to cry in his embrace.

Sometimes we need our teeth kicked in to reach that place of growth and intimacy, we both evolved a little bit from watching Soraya and her injustices.

Jarvis sent me this text message early today:

“I guess the movie left me upset, sad, insecure in the heart and worried about mankind – and I want to be with you right now.”

How’s that for opening your heart?

Let me just assure you that the other main character, Saraya’s aunt, Zahra, is a BAD ASS! She’s an elder, a witch, a strong minded, loud mouthed force to be reckoned with. Unfortunately, there was only one of her. Had it been Zahra and her clone, they may have prevailed.

To be more like Zarha is why I ‘train’ to be strong, powerful and a real Bitch – if need be. We are rallying you to find your inner Bitch so when the day comes that one of us sisters, or our kids, or even the men that we love need us to have ‘their – proverbial – back’ we will not hesitate, we will be there in droves and we will not let the member of our tribe EVER be stoned. (there’s a weed joke here, waiting to be let loose – but I just can’t do it)

So, to quote the Bitch Rap:

“…honor your sisters from everywhere, because when you need us – we’ll be there!”

In loving Bitchiness,

T-bone

PS http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1277737/

May 15, 2010. Uncategorized.