How do you stay hot and juicy? T-bone

I need your help…

There were two conversations that took place this week in my treatment room that I need to share, explore and then… I guess, resolve? One of them I listened to, the other I was a part of.

The one I listened to was between my client – we’ll call her Shelly – and her coworker, Christy. They both work in a firm that revolves around The Partners. Shelly and Christy service one Partner who has to be ready for court in a few days. The looming deadline for this case has created a bit of office tension, understandably. Christy was stating that she’d really like to get a work out in and if she only knew when The Partner was going to be there or not be there, she could schedule her run around his presence. Shelly and Christy were lamenting that The Partner was incapable of communicating his schedule so for several reasons everyone in the office was in a holding pattern, circling above the runway, waiting for his landing. What a sense of power, his whole team in waiting, anticipating his every move! These women were skipping their breaks, work outs and timely arrivals home to their families because this guy gets paid the big bucks presenting the work, that his team has put together for him, in the court of law.

I was sharing this story with another client, who is quite the feminist, and she commented on how when she takes her kids to the dentist she notices the same dynamics… this brood of women servicing the doctor! Laughing at his jokes, anticipating his every need, etc… (she even joked that they probably took turns blowin’ him in the back room) I get it, it makes for a smooth operation. The ladies are lucky they have such good jobs! When my first client, Shelly was about to leave she said, “Oh my God, you should see what happens when he (The Partner) breaks up with his girlfriend or any other crises happens… that theory of having a ‘work husband’? – he’s mine!” I thought, “holly hell, shoot me!”

The other conversation that I was involved in broke my heart… my sweet, dear friend and client – we’ll call her Eli – was on my table receiving a facial. She was very sad because she knew her husband was upset with her because the schedule she is keeping leaves her with no joy, no happiness, no juiciness and especially no energy for making love. They have two young children, she runs a small business and is taking a tough course in school. She is pooped! She’s lost her joy. She wants to be happy, but can’t get there. She said she missed the manner in which she used to care for herself, her soul, her spirit before she was married with children. I asked how that was for her and what she described was HEAVEN! Sign me up, buy me a ticket, enroll me… I want to go there now!

It went a little something like this:

EVERYDAY…

I meditated

I took a yoga class in the morning and a dance class in the evening

I walked in a park or communed with nature

I was in amazing shape

I ate very well

I had an alter (that didn’t have laundry on it)

I enjoyed my spiritual practice

I traveled! (well, not everyday…)

She went on, but I had to stop her before we both packed our bags and escaped from reality. So what I need your help with is this. How do you find balance while you’re doing it all? I know a few tricks, like finding pleasure in everything you do – even the mundane laundry, being grateful is always helpful and there’s the ever popular ‘think positive’! I actually saw a guy holding a ‘think positive’ sign along the road the other day. He had a huge smile on his face while he was broadcasting this PSA, it was super sweet and made my day! It does help…

Please leave your way in the comments below, because us women at Club Bitch are putting some programs together and you never know… we might use your techniques!

How do you stay grounded?

How do you stay hot and juicy?

How do you keep in contact with the divine?

How do you restrain the primal need to kill your family on certain days?

How do you keep your joy, self-love, sanity, etc…?

As healthy as I am, as smart as I think I am and as together as I think I’ve got it – my sweetie asked me by the end of a long weekend with the family if there was something physically or mentally wrong with me! As if!?!? Well there was – my anger and frustration levels were so high that I was outta control! It’s all due to lack of balance. As we share with each other, we heal each other.

So, thank you in advance.

In loving bitchiness,

T-bone

April 24, 2010. Uncategorized.